when you tell people "it's complicated"

When I ask people how are they or how are their relationships, a good percentage responding to me say “it’s complicated.”  But really, how complicated is complicated in our lives?  Why do we have to hide our troubles within the subtlety of that word?  Our lives and relationships – it’s either we are at peace or we are amused by the glitters of ramble becoming in the parade of troubles.  Complicated is for those who are in anguish because of the inability to understand what is going on in their lives.  Confusion would even sway in higher regard against complication.  Come to think of it, when you understand the tidings of your life and the episodes of your fitting within the peripherals of living life, with honesty and self-reliance, you either tell people what is going on in your life or you tell them you rather not say because your sensitivity enlightens you that it is not worth telling.  It is that simple.  The complication of it all is just a mist.  For that word does not embody the strength of character of the person who signifies its importance but rather exudes a weakness either within the denial of reality or the acceptance of fault.  Again, when you tell me that a surface of your life and living life is complicated, just remember that it is not that you freed yourself from losing a part of you, but you just allowed me to know and understand the part of your character that is not complementing your worth.  The burden that gives life to what you attest complication with...remains in you.  You do not become well.  “Friends are there to carry the loads from our shoulders sometimes, and most of the times, they insist to keep them…until we reach where we are going to.”  So when you tell people, “it’s complicated” when they ask you about life and relationships, you have not only persecuted your spirit with that choice but you have also denied him of helping you lighten the burden that is weakening the shoulders of your life.  With your pride, you may tell me that you will carry them alone with the strength of trying, and i will not say more.  Just remember when exhaustion consumes the influence of your will and the obstinacy of your pride and you are about to kneel in distressed abandonment and no one is there...for you have left us all - just remember what i told you so. 

Tomorrow, I'll tell you about rainbows.  Hahahahaha.

Comments

[Mikko]

to say "ITS COMPLICATED" is damn good.... hahahaha..... There are things better not said.... you want some explination? Let us put it in this way: we are in a room and there is an apple. you want to eat this. Do you want me to masticate the apple first and then il let you it the masticated apple... Its the same as knowing.... finding the deepest causes and reasons.. TIAW lang! pirita anay ako kun nanu an comment ko didi!

[rheinanhd]

mikko..primo...how can i understand what you are saying when your ship is docking at the wrong port? hehehehe.

[roselle]

gnun..parang unsafe naman ung notion na friends are there to ease ur burden..minsan cguro, but definitely not at all tyms..telling ur burden to ur frend does not necessarily mean that he's going to help u out with ur problem..bkit,alam mo ba kung ano iniisip nya wyl u're confessing?..minsan its better to say "its complicated" than telling everything that which bothers you.primarily because of the intention of guarding one's self from further harm na pwedeng gawin ng listener.. pwede ring, he's become too numb already to share his burden.. hm. if you say that frends are there to help, then why are there traitors and backstabbers? dba nakinig din sila before tas biglang magfframe ng action against the speaker?..telling ur probs to someone is NEVER an assurance that he'll be there to help u out..
heha..wra lng..^___^

[rheinanhd]

remember i said "...with honesty and self-reliance, you either tell people what is going on in your life or you tell them you rather not say because your sensitivity enlightens you that it is not worth telling. It is that simple..." = ) Why hide your concerns within the pretensions of hiding it if you can tell the other person with resolve that you rather not say. You don't need to share things to friends for what is all about is either you share them to them or you tell them you rather not = )But friends are still men and women, they have their shortcomings. They choose their faults sometimes. But often times they are true. That is why many friends remain to be who they are to you - as friends. = )

[roselle]

ehehe.. panong they choose their faults sometimes?..pasensya, my mind's too shallow to grasp wats behind that statement..

[rheinanhd]

Friends choose their faults when they betray you even if they know it would destroy that very friendship with you. This is the very reason where backbiters and traitors are born. Their knowledge of the destruction of the sanctity of true friendship is there, but many still choose to ruin it. And with that choice comes the commission of the debasement of friendship. For the nature of choices, as voluntary acts, will always leave trails for those that value the value of that very friendship against that person by whom that choice was from. = ) Just like the presence of a dye, it will always find a way to be noticed amidst pure water. = )
And who loses in the end?
The traitor - who not only lost a friendship but also stained his dignity by the distrust that sprouted from those he had committed the offense...and to those that witnessed the unfoldings = )

[Tobie marichell]

i read this way too late....i hope im not one of those who just find it convinient to say its complicated and offers no reason in being such.....well anyway its easier to say something shallow than not totally responding to such inquiry...thats my modest answer...my reply would always....i hope your not just talking about my status...good to know that many would have the same lame.....ITS COMPLICATED excuses....